Just because guys find women to be attractive, doesn’t mean that all guys REALLY want to be GOOD with women.
Do you want to be good with women?
That’s an important question.
It’s very different than asking “Do you want to get BACK at women for the hard times you had or the painful times you had with them?” (As a lot of guys out there preach all kinds of hogwash that is useless for actually getting the women you want, but seems very appealing for guys that want to treat women like crap and get “back” at them.)
It’s very different than asking “Do you want to get laid?” (As escort services and easy women can take care of that.)
It’s also very different than asking “Do you want a special tactic for getting women?” (As that would imply that you are LAZY and that the best you are willing to do is memorize some overly simplistic “tactics” or “lines”.)
NO, the question is very simple: Do you want to be good with women?
Do you REALLLLY want this?
So, if THIS is your goal, read on.
And ONLY if this is your goal, read on.
The reality is that being good with women involves a LOT of skills, a LOT of insights, a lot of inner development, and a LOT of practice.
But most guys don’t want to hear this.
That’s because they don’t REALLY want to be good with women. They’d like to be good with women, but not if it means INPUT. So they fall prey to “how to be good with women by following this special magic line or tactic” as opposed to actually LEARNING on a deeper level.
But you DO want to be really good, and I respect that.
One of the major components of truly developing yourself in this area is gaining a sharp understanding of the DETAILS and the SUBTLETIES involved in being good at pick up and attraction.
There are very few “simplicities”.
1. For example, if you see a woman you’d like to chat up, and she’s with a group of friends, the reality is that what’s just as important as whether she is alone or with friends, is ARE HER FRIENDS as hot as she is?
THIS is a bigger factor than if she is alone or not.
So, for example, if two girls are together, who are BOTH hot, it’s going to be FAR easier to pick up EITHER one than if her friend is NOT hot.
The reason is simple- if her friend is NOT hot, it’s going to piss off her friend, and the hot one will know it’s pissing her off and will not want to make her feel bad by making her feel left out.
And if you are not in a club, it’s not that easy to always “isolate” the hottie away from her friend. So for example, very often, you will have to engineer the situation so that you are chatting with them both and getting both of their numbers. Not always, but often.
But if BOTH girls are hot, then you can EASILY do whatever the hell you want, because EGO is not a concern here, no one is left feeling like they are worthless. When two girls are together who are hot, that is NOT a problem at all, in fact one girl tends to help the other one get picked up!!!!!!! In most cases, they will HELP you – I can remember many cases for example, like on the bus, where this one girl actually find the paper and the pen so her friend can write her number down, and in fact the friend tells me what a great girl her friend is, and that I should call her, etc.
All because she doesn’t feel bad just because her friend is getting attention – in fact, maybe she is not single, and she wants her friend to meet a really cool guy too, so they can both be on the same page!
So it’s not about whether it’s a lone woman, or a group of two, or ten, but more about the self-esteem of the chicks involved, and preserving that so that no one is left feeling yucky.
That’s just ONE example of something that is totally misunderstood – the whole idea of it being about whether a chick is in a GROUP or not. It’s really NOT the main factor.
2. Here’s another thing that totally is misunderstood: The whole idea of whether or not you should MENTION certain things even though they are TRUE.
For example, let’s say you see a girl on the city commuter train, but she is on another subway car. So you SWITCH train cars at the next station to get onto HERS.
Even though it’s TRUE, it’s not going to sound CUTE to the girl when you mention “Hey I saw you from the next car and decided to come over to chat with you.” Unless she’s NOT hot, chances are you are going to just CREEP her out with that, as if you were spending wayyyy too much time and energy on a total stranger, as if you are psycho.
Instead, just continue the pick-up like you would if you just met her. Start up a conversation about something light, and FEED it with your personality – make it fun, playful, teasing, intriguing.
Of course, DEVELOPING these skills to BE all these things is a whole topic as well, but the fact is, even with those skills, if you start off all wrong, you will get SHUT DOWN before you can even get started!
And the FACT IS, that without a SOLID GRASP of this stuff, you are NOT going to get the results you want, because the reality is that the HIGHEST QUALITY women are not exactly FLYING around all over the place.
This is NOT scarcity thinking, it is simply a FACT. The highest quality women DO exist in ample supply, but you will have to be READY to take action when the moment COUNTS. And sometimes, it’s not going to fall into your lap, you are going to have to do pick-up in a strange situation with strange logistics like the above. Or she may be in a rush, leaving the store, with bags in her hand, about to go to work or school or meet up with someone, and not seeming open to pick up.
But that is your ONLY CHANCE to actually take action or she will be GONE.
So knowing how to best take action in these situations is what counts. If you come across as desperate or try hard, it’s over. So in that subway situation, being so candid about how you saw her is just going to hurt your results.
Here’s ANOTHER example of something that is a crucial subtlety:
3. Even though the principles of attraction are universal, each girl is at least slightly different from each other in personality, and therefore you must RECOGNIZE the patterns of personalities so that you can BEST attract and best connect with her.
Some girls are very bubbly and girly and feminine. These girls tend to REALLLY respond to masculinity. Like, all girls respond to it, but these types GO WILD for it.
Other girls have been conditioned to only open their minds to being receptive to a guy if they think he has a lot of SOCIAL STATUS.
With such a girl, it WILL help your pick up if she finds out without you actually SAYING it that you are indeed of high social status.
So for example, if she asks what you do, and you say nothing, and she laughs, because she figures you must do something so status respected that you are so secure so that you don’t even feel the need to qualify yourself, but then she asks again, and she actually DOES seriously want to know so she can feel comfortable, she feels it’s DANGEROUS to get attracted to you otherwise, so she will shut herself down before she can even get interested if she feels you are not “high status”.
So you see the status, prestige, etc, it won’t ATTRACT her sexually, but it will allow her to OPEN THE DOORS to you to GAME her so that she CAN become sexually interested.
And there are so many other subtleties to this game, for example, even among PARTY GIRLS, there is huge variance. There are party girls who are still pretty cool girls, they have normal jobs and are not on cocaine and don’t even smoke, they just can’t wait to party and they have that bubbly personality.
Then you have the other type of party girls that are totally shallow and/or are addicts or just messed up personally and emotionally.
But it’s important to realize that not all party girls are bad or hardcore party animals.
So let’s say you meet a “good” party girl, and you’re not necessarily looking for a deep relationship, but to at least enjoy the time you have with her.
Well, then I can tell you that she’s going to RESPOND like crazy to a pickup style that is even MORE FUN and MORE SECURE and also verrrrrry SEXUAL in the pick-up, more overtly sexual in the pick-up than the style of pick up you should do on most other girls. It will NOT make her feel “cheap” or “slutty”, as to her being sexual is like BREATHING AIR. This whole “anti slut defense shield” varies from girl to girl.
How do I know this stuff? Simple – because I’m not a wanker wannabe who rehashes whatever UNPROVEN trite is in vogue.
Rather, I’m out there meeting women, not only in clubs, but POUNDING THE PAVEMENT and meeting women everywhere, all kinds of women, and you learn a thing or two after doing pickup year after year in the real world.
It took time and it took sheer EFFORT to gain this experience. If after a day of pick-up, and being exhausted from searching the city for a truly beautiful woman inside and out, and walking miles and miles, I would then spot a striking woman far away, I would must up the energy to catch up to her and do the pick up as if I was totally fresh, with the same energy, focus and determination.
And I can tell you one of the biggest lessons I’ve learned about attraction:
4. It’s not just about putting yourself on a pedestal and especially not about putting a woman “down”.
I see too many guys following popular but misguided advice that is all about putting the women down in subtle ways so that you seem superior.
Let me tell you why that is not enough and why it does not work, especially long term.
First of all, a woman will only feel attraction if you DO give off the vibe of having what I call “SUPERIOR INTRINSIC VALUE”, and if the ONLY thing you know how to do is put women down, you will actually be giving off vibes of INSECURITY and low value.
Plus, even if you do get SOME results with this style of putting women down, the woman you are with will slowly put the pieces together, and will start to give you back a taste of your own medicine. And then you are going to be between a rock and a hard place, because if you go soft, you look like a wuss as if you are suddenly kissing up. And if you continue with the ego-slamming tactics, she will continue to slam your ego as well.
And that’s going to be one messed up situation that is not fun.
5. Rather, what DOES work, and is FAR healthier psychologically for BOTH you AND her, is for you to actually have POSITIVE VALUE.
Which means that TEASING a girl comes from a place of CONFIDENCE AND FUN and NOT from a place that is malicious.
It also means that the teasing is done JUST enough to create that sexual TENSION and something for her to ANTICIPATE BREAKING THROUGH, because in fact it’s FUN to not have everything so easily handed to you and to have to work for it.
The same way a great movie doesn’t just JUMP to the conclusion, and feels so much better when you feel the struggle of the hero to REACH the happy conclusion!
And it ALSO means that you need to KNOW when and how to give a woman a MEANINGFUL COMPLIMENT.
And THAT comes from actually HAVING a cool personality that ADDS VALUE to your interactions, makes things more FUN, more PLAYFUL, more INTRIGUING, more SEXUAL.
And more MEANINGFUL.
This includes also UNDERSTANDING the different types of women, and understanding how to best connect with them.
This is about ENRICHING yourself in this particular area called “how to be good with women”, and I guarantee you that this is not about “slamming women’s egos.”
That “slamming egos” stuff is more for if a woman is acting like a downright b***h with you right off the bat. But even THEN, honestly, most of the time there is NO NEED for it, you’re better off to just LAUGH IT OFF and determine immediately if the woman is really a b***h or is she just getting rid of an ocean of idiots hitting on her.
Just the other day for example, a great girl kept telling me how she was too young for me, to which I laughed it off, ignored it, and kept up the interaction, figured out exactly her personality and gave her exactly what she needed (including a sense of independence, so for example, at one point where she was playing hard to get, I told her, and I meant it, “hey don’t make me make you do anything you don’t want to do” to which she then IMMEDIATELY changed modes and goes “Nobody make me do anything – I do what I want to do” which was perfect, because now it made her CHASING ME a form of HER independence.
As I was not forcing it on her and truly had the inner congruency of being able to walk away. And, another cool thing was I had taken immediate charge of the situation in a clear way, not scared of her reaction or lack of approval in the SLIGHTEST, as there are plenty more women around.
This, as well as everything else I was doing, got her into overdrive, leading to her not only giving me her number and talking to me about how turned on she was, which she kept saying never normally happens to her so fast, but also I could hardly get her OFF the phone that night even when I wanted to go to sleep. And she had to get up early as well.
But before that, she kept bringing up the age thing every few minutes, till I told her that it was funny at first but was retarded now, and then she stopped, as she realized in fact she was sounding retarded at that point. In fact, part of this whole age thing was not even the age, it was her way of showing SOME resistance, some token reason for resistance to show she was not that easy. Which I totally understand from a girl’s point of view.
And then she said it must be because I’m a Gemini and she has a thing for Geminis. This just goes to show you how LOGIC has no bearing once a girl is into you. Not only do her logical objections to you have nothing to do with attraction, but also, she will USE some sort of logic RETROACTIVELY to JUSTIFY why she IS attracted to you, even though it has nothing to do with it.
And that’s cool by me. All I care about is results.
And if YOU want results, let me cut to the TRUTH:
There’s a LOT to learn. A lot of subtleties.
For example, it’s not enough to just GO FOR IT. Going for it is a great starting point.
Going for it can help you get over your fear of rejection, and that is a GREAT starting point.
But it’s not enough.
There is NO one magic tactic, or move, or method. The only guys that believe in magic moves are guys that ALREADY had great game but were too afraid to try anything, so when they finally try something, it works because of all the other stuff they are doing right. But they think it was the one “magic move” they learned.
If there was such a thing, EVERY guy would be doing it.
It takes some EFFORT.
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Sure, you can go out and do pick up on your own and try to learn it all on your own, and that’s cool. But chances are, it will take you A LONG TIME TO LEARN IT ALL BY YOURSELF. You will have to do it all by trial and error and that wastes TIME.
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